“The key is not to resist or rebel against emotions
or try to get around them by devising all sorts of tricks
but to accept them directly, as they are”Takahisa Kora, M.D
A Professional and Caring Approach: The Essence of Person-Centred Therapy
Person-centred therapy is founded on the profound belief that every individual possesses the innate capacity to understand themselves, find clarity, and create meaningful change in their lives, once the right conditions of empathy, acceptance, and self-awareness are established. It is a therapeutic approach that places the client at the heart of the healing process, trusting in their inner wisdom and natural drive toward growth and self-actualisation.
As the psychologist Carl Rogers once said:
“The key is not to resist or rebel against emotions or try to get around them by devising all sorts of tricks, but to accept them directly, as they are.”
This philosophy acknowledges that no matter how overwhelmed or discouraged someone may feel, there is always an inner part of them seeking healing and resolution. The difference between stagnation and transformation often lies not in willpower alone, but in one’s willingness to explore, accept, and evolve.
Challenges such as depression, anxiety, stress, and spiritual disconnection can be addressed through a compassionate blend of therapeutic modalities, including counselling, psychotherapy, and energy-based healing practices. This integrative approach respects the complex interconnection between the emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual dimensions of the self.
In person-centred therapy, the self is understood as a dynamic, organised system of beliefs and perceptions, our inner sense of “who I am” and “what I can do.” This self-concept deeply influences how we relate to others, interpret our experiences, and respond to life’s challenges.
The role of the therapist is not to direct or impose change but to create a safe, empathic space in which clients can explore their thoughts, feelings, and needs from their own perspective. Through deep understanding and reflective listening, the counsellor endeavours to see the world through the client’s eyes, facilitating self-discovery and authentic growth.
A central tenet of this approach is the belief that all human beings are inherently good, resourceful, and oriented toward growth. The therapist offers unconditional positive regard, a sincere and non-judgmental acceptance of the client’s feelings, thoughts, and behaviours as they are. This form of caring is not contingent on the client’s actions or achievements; instead, it communicates the powerful message:
“I accept you as you are.”
It’s not that some people have more
willpower and some don’t,
It’s that some people are willing to
change and others are not.James Gordon M.D
This non-evaluative presence allows the client to gradually dismantle internalised self-judgements and societal conditioning, making space for the restoration of inner clarity and authentic self-awareness.
Ultimately, the goal is not to teach the mind new motives, but to gently undo the layers of negative conditioning it has absorbed. In doing so, what remains is a state of natural, unconditioned awareness, a return to the self’s original clarity and wholeness.
Covid19 is causing more and more stress related issues for example.
We have no need to teach pure motives to our mind. All that is necessary to make the mind pure is to undo the negative conditioning to which it has been subjected, then we will be left with pure, unconditional awareness.”
Eknath Easwaran
“Good friends are like stars,
You can’t always see them
but you know they are always there”
Author unknown
12th October 2008
